![]() Love (may be qualified as love in a spiritual sense rather than romantic sense). Feeling of being cared for / protected. Structure to their day and life, and a sense of purpose. They may perceive being a slave as their identity and role, and holding deep / life meaning. Some (but by no means all) see it as a "calling". Meanwhile, I want to talk about what's in it for both parties? WHAT'S IN IT FOR THE (consensual voluntary) SLAVE?Įveryone and every relationship is different, however some of the common themes which come up when slaves are asked about what's in it for them. In doing so, they learn more about their needs, capabilities, and about themselves and the Mistress / slave relationship dynamic. There are also practicalities (such as how are they going to be able to afford to live) which can get in the way of such desires, and other challenges which I will go in to within Part 2.įor this reason, many will practise such a dynamic on a much smaller or short-term scale, such as a day's slavery, weekend or week's slavery. It also takes a skilled Mistress / Master / owner / Dom(me) to manage well such a relationship due to the responsibility and skills required to make it work. It would be folly though to do so without having really got to know and understand fully each other's needs and motivations, and the practicalities of how such an arrangement might work in the real world. Some will attempt to seek out a would-be owner / Mistress / Master / Dom(me), and negotiate a relationship, and even move locations geographically and change work places or quit their work in order to try and make it work. ![]() The "ideal" for a slave is typically to want to be in a 24/7 live-in full-time relationship, even if that seems a distant dream or fantasy for many. For example some "slaves" seek training and service under a Dominatrix or lifestyle Mistress, which is fitted in within the rest of their life. While others live separately, and are only able to engage in their relationship part-time or sporadically due to other life or work commitments. Some slaves live in what's known as a "24/7 live-in relationship", which is an abbreviation for a 24 hours a day / 7 days a week relationship, living with their Mistress / Master / owner in their house. Therein lays the drama and the difference between Master/slave and other relationships." (David Schachter "Introduction" in Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The real lives of gay Masters and slaves Perfectbound Press, New York, 2009, p.13) The Master has to make sure the slave is happier serving than not. ![]() (And not in other words been coerced, trafficked, involuntary or anything else of that nature.)Īs David Schachter put it in the Introduction of his co-written book on Master/slave relationships: "this is a consensual relationship, and either can quit at any time. I am of course speaking of consensual voluntary BDSM slavery in which the aspiring, desiring and self-identifying slave has sought out a slave position with a BDSM Master, Mistress or Dom, because they want to be a slave and to serve. ![]() UNDERSTANDING THE DESIRE TO BE A SLAVE ANNE'S QUALIFICATION AND CLARIFICATION OF "CONSENSUAL VOLUNTARY SLAVERY"įirstly let me qualify the term "slave". Today I want to write a bit about "slaves". I feel that this is one of the areas least understood, and which in Dominatrix training is remiss in being taught. Recently I've been teaching classes on some of the different psychologies of people within the BDSM scene and who report to Dominatrices and lifestyle Dominants submissives, slaves, masochists and fetishists.
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